About The Bloomington PolyNexus

PLEASE READ THIS ENTIRE PAGE BEFORE APPLYING FOR MEMBERSHIP.


"Polyamory," in its broadest usage, is the concept of being open to having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time, with the full knowledge and consent of all partners involved.

The Mission/Purpose of the Bloomington PolyNexus:

The Bloomington PolyNexus provides a safe and supportive environment for polyamorous and polycurious people to connect, learn, and grow.

We do this by:
1. Creating a safe and comfortable space for polyamorous and polycurious people to meet each other,
2. Continuing to educate ourselves and others about polyamory, and
3. Building a community of support through education, social events, and sharing.

Currently, our monthly events include:
1.Poly Topics Monthly (PTM)
The purpose of this meeting is educational. Some past PTMs included seminars, workshops, and lectures on The History of Monogamy, Dealing with Jealousy, Safer Sex, Successful Communication, and Poly Time Management.
2. Poly Social
This event is just for fun and meeting others. Some past socials have included pool/billiards, picnic in the park with live music, wine-tasting, ice skating, swimming pool party, etc.
3. Movie night
This event alternates months with the Book Club. At movie night we watch a poly-related film, eat munchies, and discuss the film. Some past movies we've watched include Kinsey, The Big Chill, A Home at the End of the World, When Two Won't Do, and Kiss the Sky.
4. Book Club
This event alternates months with Movie Night. Every two months, members of the BPN can read the designated poly book and get together to talk about it. You don't have to have read the book to join the discussion. Some past book have included _Polyamory, the New Love Without Limits_, _The Ethical Slut_, _Stranger in a Strange Land_, _The Myth of Monogamy_, and _Redefining Our Relationships_.
5. BPN HangOut
This event is an ultra-casual drop-in gathering to socialize and discuss whatever's on your mind. It is usually held on a Friday night at a local restaurant. It is often family-friendly.
6. PODS (Poly Open Disclosure and Sharing)
This event is held 2x's/month and is a type of "support group." Each attendee has an opportunity (but not an obligation) to talk about whatever poly is on his/her mind. This is not a "discussion group;" cross-talk is discouraged. Instead, it's an opportunity to air your joys and frustrations to receptive, non-judgmental ears.


We welcome people of all sexual and relationship orientations and identities, religious affiliations, spiritual beliefs, races and ethnic backgrounds, physical appearances and abilities, medical conditions, ages or other personal particulars.

For more information email POLYNEXUS@gmail.com


Paramount to the poly ideology is full disclosure to all partners. Poly requires a very mature individual who is willing to put the love and effort necessary into the vast amount of communication and negotiation often involved in multi-partner relating. Gratuitous sex, a desire to avoid commitment, an unwillingness to practice empathy, and an extreme lack of self-confidence are incompatible with most successful polyamorous ventures.

Polyamory is NOT swinging, and PolyNexus is NOT a dating service. We are a supportive network of individuals with a common social ideology, discovering our own forms of loving relationships without judgment. We are also not an on-line group. We are a person-to-person group that gathers for various events on a monthly basis. Only those who are interested in ATTENDING events should consider membership. Gatherings may include intimate discussion and sharing but not sex. Our focus is on personal growth as related to the challenges and joys of multi-partner relating. If YOUR primary interest in PolyNexus is to find an intimate partner, please do not apply to our group-- we do not tolerate unsolicited advances of any sort, including emails. Your photo (if you chose to include one) should reflect a desire to meet someone face-to-face. Nude photos (though we do celebrate the body) are not acceptable on the site.

If you'd like to do more research on polyamory before deciding to join, we recommend:
Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits : Secrets of Sustainable Intimate Relationships
by Deborah Anapol and
The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt

A few websites we've found helpful as well:

alt.polyamory home page, full of FAQs
Poly Matchmaker--Meet other Polies and Find Lots of Good Info
Polyamory Society
Wikipedia's excellent entry on polyamory